3 KEY TIPS to help you feel better…
Despite the multitude of helpful advice and support available, this negative issue remains stuck and buried deep inside. Until we identify and acknowledge the exact reason and root cause of the issue, the same thoughts and feelings will come back time and time again.
“How can I change?” “How can I stop this feeling?”
I was asked these very questions by one of my recent clients. She felt that no matter how many self-help books, webinars and You Tube videos she read and watched, even though she knew all of the theory, it was just impossible for her to believe that she was good enough or as good as others. It was impossible for her to stop feeling that she was inadequate and a failure. Especially as she felt she just can’t take the advice for herself, when she happily gives to others.
So how do we go about finding a resolution? How can a Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT) session help people to be released from their anxiety and negative thinking?
A Rapid Transformation Therapy session delves deeply into the client’s issue, their presenting problem. Often the issue that the client wants to fix is not actually the main reason and root cause of why they are suffering the problem. To identify exactly what is going on we start with:
- understanding the issue, the client’s problem and how it came about in their life. We look into the client’s background, their childhood experiences and other significant moments in order to fully understand what the client is going through and how it is affecting them.
- it is also essential at an early part of the process to fully understand the client’s expectation and desired outcome for the session. ‘What do they want instead?’ Asking the client to start thinking exactly how they will feel, what they will do, how their life will be changed when they no longer have the problem is a key task before the session begins.
- when the client can express how they will feel when they can live without the problem this is a very powerful first step. Many people have never considered how their life would be without their current mindset.
- once the client’s ideal outcome is known we then use powerful transformative tools and techniques within the RTT session to help the client to fully understand exactly why, where and when they developed and formed the beliefs that are stopping them from believing in themselves now.
In the RTT session we take the client into hypnosis, a very gentle & relaxing process where we can begin a dialogue directly with the client’s subconscious mind. The subconscious mind holds all the answers. We ask the client about events in their past and how these past situations created the feelings and blockages that still hold them back today. The mind already knows why and what we are thinking and believing, we already have the answers deep inside our mind. In doing this we can discover the root causes and original events that lead the client to pick up beliefs that affect them without their conscious awareness of where they came from or when and where they started.
For those clients feeling not good enough; for those overthinking and feeling unable to cope?
Often they find that deeply held beliefs about their self-concept were developed at a young age, whether consciously or not are the reason for how they feel now. It’s extraordinary, this happens time after time. The belief system is the root cause of the issue people face today. Once this root cause has been identified, we go on to reframe these incorrect and unwanted old beliefs. We release and transform those old negative thoughts and habit patterns holding the client back into their past and past situations.
We all have hidden and buried beliefs that have profoundly and silently influenced our ability to feel fulfilled, and happy in who we are. In the session we help the client to reconnect with their true desires and help them to achieve exactly what they want in their life. The truth is, it is possible to access your exact desires even if you are facing difficulties regarding how you see yourself, we look into your beliefs and use tools in order to help you move forward.
With the current Pandemic situation affecting the whole population, feeling stressed and worried about how we and our loved ones are going to cope is a major concern. So how can we keep our head up and feel confident about our self and our reactions to our situation?
3 KEY TIPS to help people who feel that they are not good enough
Marisa Peer, founder of Rapid Transformational Therapy, explains
how to develop confidence and self esteem
1. Speak like a CONFIDENT person
Talk to yourself using language that is helpful, supportive and confident. Improving your inner conversation is a vital first step to feeling confident and good about yourself.
2. Work on your WORDS and PICTURES
Negative
1. I am in a nightmare.
2. I am scared and horrified.
3. I’m losing control.
4. I just can’t cope.
5. I’m not the same as them.
6. I can’t do it.
7. I am frozen paralysed with fear.
8. I’m falling apart. I can’t bear it. I can’t stand it.
9. This is killing me.
10. My children are driving me mad.
Positive
1. I am calm, and in control. I can deal with it.
2. I’m coping fantastically.
3. I’m mildly concerned.
4. I know what to do and how to do it.
5. I like me and so do others.
6. I can do it; I will do it. I’m doing brilliantly.
7. I am excited and I’m doing a fabulous job.
8. I’m doing so well. I can do anything.
9. This is challenging me.
10. I can cope with my children.
How true are these negative statements above, do they reflect your own internal voice?
Now turn your thinking around and transform that internal inner voice using the positive opposites. Change that inner language, see it as exciting to have new opportunities. If you feel anxious before any new event. Just think how happy you will feel inside when those old negative thoughts are left in the past where they belong. Those negative words can now be transformed into a positive statement, statements that gives feelings of calm and control.
When you take control, you will find that your self confidence and self-esteem both dramatically increase!
3. Program the mind to SUCCEED
If you are suffering, put the above into practice, you will feel a phenomenal difference.
Hopefully this blog post has helped you to understand how to move past those deep feelings of inadequacy, where you are not able to cope, when you are feeling that you are not good enough can be changed. It’s a matter of getting to the root cause of why you feel this way and understanding what is stopping you from feeling OK about yourself. In psychology, we believe that 95% of your emotional life is determined by the way you talk to yourself as you go throughout your day.
If you do not deliberately make an effort to talk to yourself in a positive, confident way, using only confident words and pictures, omitting all negative self-talk, you can then leave behind all that makes you feel unhappy and causes you worry and anxiety.
Take on board the 3 key tips:
1. Speak like a CONFIDENT person
2. Work on your WORDS and PICTURES
3. Program the mind to SUCCEED
Apply these methods throughout your day, every day, be confident and positive. Stop all negative self-criticism and really like yourself for you who are.
Know that you are unique and that you matter. If you apply these techniques, your confidence will grow and your self-esteem will increase. You will find that you will be better at coping with whatever situation you find yourself in.
What’s next?
You may be interested in a related Service: Enhanced Confidence Boost! ‘Regain your real inner confidence’
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Look after yourself, Joanna x
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