How to Attract What You Want
Have you ever felt like you’re doing all the right things, being positive, setting intentions, trying to “raise your vibe” but what you want still isn’t showing up?
You’re not alone. A lot of people feel frustrated by the idea of “manifestation” because it can seem like things should just appear if you think positively enough. But here’s the truth: if deep down you don’t really believe you deserve what you want, or that it’s even possible, your mind will quietly get in the way.
We don’t get what we want, we get what we expect.
And what we expect is shaped by our unconscious beliefs.
What Gets in the Way?
Even if consciously you want success, love, confidence, or freedom, your subconscious might be running an old programme based on self-doubt, fear, or past experiences.
You might be thinking:
“I want a better job” but deep down feel “I’m not good enough.”
“I want a healthy relationship” but carry beliefs like “Love always ends in pain.”
“I want to feel confident” but secretly think “I’m just not that kind of person.”
These inner beliefs often come from childhood, past criticism, or difficult experiences, and they quietly limit what we allow ourselves to believe is possible.
If you’re curious about how negative thinking feeds this cycle, this post about mindset is a great place to explore further.
“If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking ‘I don’t deserve this,’ that’s the kind of inner voice we work with in my Negative Mindset post. Getting clear on your desires helps you interrupt that pattern.”
Why Positive Expectation Matters
Why is it that some people always seem to have things work out for them?
As Brian Tracy, author and goal-setting expert, explains:
“Successful, happy people continually maintain an attitude of positive self-expectancy. They expect to succeed, expect to learn from challenges, and expect good things to come their way.”
When you expect things to go well, you naturally behave in ways that support those outcomes. You notice opportunities, take action, and respond with more resilience.
You are, as Tracy puts it, a “living magnet.” You attract the people and circumstances that match your dominant thoughts, especially the ones you focus on most strongly. When you change the way you think about yourself and your possibilities, your life starts to change too.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.”
– Dale Carnegie
This Is More Than Just Positive Thinking
This post isn’t about surface-level affirmations. It’s about truly understanding what’s going on in the background of your mind, and how to work with it.
Because here’s the thing: you can absolutely attract what you want. But first, you need to:
Understand and rewire the beliefs that are holding you back.
Create emotional safety around change.
Align your mind with what you want to receive, and be ready to act on it.
That’s the real work. And it’s absolutely possible.
What You Really Want
- You don’t just want to “think more positively.”
- You want to feel more confident.
- To believe in your own worth.
- To trust that good things can and do happen for you.
- To stop repeating the same patterns and start seeing real change in your life.
- That’s where deep mindset work comes in.
How I Can Help You Get There
If you’re ready to stop just hoping for better and start creating it, Enhanced Thinking could be exactly what you need.
It’s a 3-session RTT® package designed for lasting change, especially if you’ve been stuck in the same cycles for a while. Sometimes one breakthrough session is enough to shift a specific issue. But for deeper or long-standing patterns, real transformation often needs more time, space, and support.
This package gives you that.
It’s for people who want more than just symptom relief, they want clarity, calm, and the mindset to build the life they know they’re capable of.
If You Don’t Want the Service - Try This Instead
Not everyone’s ready for a deep dive, and that’s okay. The good news is, there are simple ways to start shifting your mindset right now.
✨ Start small, but stay consistent.
Think about one thing you really want to attract, and then ask yourself: What would someone who already believed this was possible be thinking or doing differently? Begin to practise showing up in that energy, even in small ways.
🧠 Notice your inner dialogue.
When you catch yourself thinking, “That’ll never happen for me,” gently challenge it. Ask: Is that really true, or is it an old belief trying to protect me from disappointment? You don’t have to force positivity, just create space for a new possibility.
🪞 Act as if.
This doesn’t mean pretending or faking it. It means aligning with the version of you who already feels safe, capable, and worthy of what they want. If you truly believed things were changing for the better, how would you carry yourself today?
The truth is, attracting what you want is less about effort and more about alignment. When your thoughts, beliefs, and actions begin to match up with your desires, you start moving naturally in the direction of the life you want to live.
Why We Need Change
Final Thoughts
You already have everything within you to attract what you want. Sometimes it’s just a matter of clearing away the old beliefs, stories, and blocks that have been standing in the way.
When you shift how you see yourself, everything else can shift too.
Ready to take that first step?
If you’ve identified with what you’ve read today, let’s talk. I offer a free, friendly consultation so we can explore what’s going on for you, and whether working together could help.
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You don’t have to figure it all out alone.
What's next?
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Look after yourself, Joanna x
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