Do you find 'bad news' and 'bad feelings' play non-stop in your head like a bad movie?
Are you thinking of investing time into learning how you can live a happier and more successful life, do you want to attract what you want in your life? Maybe you are aware of the power of the mind and positive thinking but when it comes to it, when you really need to turn those negative feelings around it just seems impossible to do this.
If that’s the case then a 1 to 1 session where you can learn all about how, why and when you developed this way of reacting to bad news and bad situations, could be the help you need. As soon as you understand and transform why you repeatedly rehash ‘what was said’, ‘what you could have done better‘ into better ways of thinking and re-frame those thought patterns into positive and helpful ways of dealing with situations, life will look a lot better!
So if you’re wondering whether my Enhanced Confidence Boost! ‘Regain your real inner confidence’ session, is right for you, then this article should help you to decide.
What do you do when you get bad news, when bad things happen to you?
The Enhanced Confidence Boost! ‘Regain your real inner confidence’ is for you if you feel that no matter what you do bad things happen to you. It is easy to feel hard done by particularly if we had nothing to do with how the negative result came about, especially when the very same result happens again and again? No one would blame you for feeling low and upset at this time, maybe even feeling like a victim? You won’t be surprised to hear that you are not alone. Many of us can get carried away with our feelings, worries and fears when bad things happen.
The way we think about things has a massive effect on what we attract into our lives.
Now just think for a moment, about your situation;
- How has what you have been thinking about over the last few years resulted in your current situation now?
- How do you see yourself over the next decade?
- Are what you thinking and doing right now, going to help you shape what you want in your future?
Think about your life, your family, what you do for a living, where you will be living and how much money you will live off, all these things are driven from the thoughts and actions you have right now.
What we think and do right now, is important. What we think about and ruminate on tends to come right back to us. Dwell on what you want, take action and set your good intentions on what you want to achieve. Be positive, look forward, because what you want will come back to you!
As the things that we most love and fear the most tend to occupy our thoughts much of the time, we tend to attract those very things. If we focus on what we don’t want, we will attract what we don’t want. The more we think about our negative outcomes, the more attention and emotion we add to these thoughts, the stronger we feel our bad feelings. Think about what you do want and not so much about what you fear.
How do we get to be successful and lead a happy life?
Write your goals down on paper
Yes, it’s old fashioned and it takes longer than typing, I know. This method is fully recommended by the master of Goal Setting Mr Brian Tracy, so give it a go!
Know that there is something important that happens when we write down what we want by hand. If you pick up a pen and write want you want, this simple act automatically generates not only the law of attraction, but also an expectation in your mind. By writing the goals down you develop and strengthen your resolve that the goals are possible for you!
However, whatever it is that you want in life, bear in mind you have to PAY!
You have to pay for everything, whether you pay in money or pay by your time invested. So decide how much you are willing to give to your goal, what is the price that you will pay?
With that in mind consider what you will do to achieve that goal, will you need to add to your skills?
- Will you re-think where you are working? Who you are working with?
- Maybe you join networking groups?
- Perhaps you put yourself out there, be visible?
- Or maybe you sign up for for public speaking, live video sessions?
- Anything needed to make that vision work, anything required to bring that goal into reality.
It’s not just wishful thinking!
Develop the goal, write up every task, everything you can think of that will be needed to support that goal. Develop a plan, a checklist or project plan. Take action of some kind that supports the goal every day, even if it is sending only one email.
Whatever is required, cement it in your mind and Go for it! After all, it is worth the effort to get what you want.
Keep up the motivation, help your brain to see that you are taking the goal seriously. Your confidence in completing an action listed in your plan in itself triggers other possibilities which helps you through the other tasks in your plan. The more you do to achieve what you want the more this will draw you to other tasks and activities that you have not even considered yet.
If you continue to work on the tasks in your goals, without having any guarantees you will feel the benefits, you will feel that the plan is coming towards you.
As you become what you think about most of the time, be sure to control your thoughts and think about the things you want rather than the things you don’t want. Just keep your mind positive by accepting that life can be difficult and dealing with things in the best way you can, realise that criticising others, complaining and blaming doesn’t help.
Focus only what is important to you and what you can do right now to improve your life.
Why is it that successful people seem to always be happy and positive?
Brian Tracy the Master of Goal Setting and the Power of Achievement states: Successful, happy people continually maintain an attitude of positive self expectancy. They expect to be successful in advance, and they are seldom disappointed. They expect to make more sales than they lose. They expect to learn something valuable from every experience. They expect to eventually achieve their goals and remain open to the possibility that those goals may be achieved in a way they didn’t expect.
The very best way to predict the future is to ‘create it’.
You can create your future by the way you approach everything that happens to you today, either positively or negatively. If you approach situations confidently expect to learn from it or gain from it and you will grow and progress and move forward towards your goals. You will also be a happier, more optimistic person.
You are a “living magnet”, you inevitably attract the people and circumstances in your life that harmonise with your dominant thoughts, especially those thoughts that you focus on strongly. When you change your thinking about yourself and your possibilities you will attract into your life the forces necessary to turn those big thoughts and ideas into real life experiences.
Take charge of your life. There is only one thing over which you have complete control, and that is the control of your own mind.
Only you can decide what you’re going to think and how you’re going to think about it. This power, this control is all you need to create a Wonderful life! for yourself, your ability to steer your thoughts towards the destination of your own choosing is sufficient to enable you to overcome all obstacles and make up for all limitations on your road to success.
The fact is that everything you ever achieve, you’re going to have to do it yourself. No one is going to do it for you. But if you keep learning and growing and trying lots of things you will eventually get the breaks.
This article is not just about positive thinking and positive affirmations, the key aspect to becoming successful is to attract what you want into your life. It is critical that you do the work, you pay the price, put the effort in and enjoy reaching your success, you’ve earned it.
“Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquor fear, do not sit at home and think about it. Go out and get busy” – Dale Carnegie
What's stopping you? Is 'change' holding you back?
“…Imagine that from today, nothing in your life ever changes at all.
The weather is as it is today. And it’s the same every day from now on. You eat the same food every day for the rest of your life. Whatever you’re wearing today, this is all you wear for the rest of your life. You never get older or change your hairstyle. Your job is the same every day, TV shows are the same every day.
You never move home or change your job, you never go go abroad. There are no holidays, there are no weekends, so instead of dreading change you dread no change. The reason why we love holidays and weekends is because of diversity, which means change.
Change is an essential vital human need….”
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Look after yourself, Joanna x